Ok ladies, todays post is something I feel very strongly about. For all of you consistent weave wearers who have just made"The Switch" have you noticed when you are out in public the caliber of men who try to "holla" are much different as a natural? This really pisses me off. Just because I'm natural does not mean every joe blow who comes by and drops a line is worth my time. I mean the stigma that comes along with the natural hair is crazy. When I was avidly wearing weave many men would not approach me because they thought i came off "unapproachable" or looked too "high maintenance" and quite frankly I miss those days of not being attacked by every person on the street who thinks "oh, she's natural I can probably get her." Call it stuck up or what you will, but I am not in the mood for it. Save the "my sista" comments and realize that natural women don't want busters either. Sometimes when I find myself trapped in a dead end conversation with someone who refuses to take the "I'm sorry I'm in a relationship" line as a "HELL NO" I wish I could just snap my fingers and my weave would appear and he would say "you ain't all that anyway" and just walk away. I'd take such ignorant backlash any day if it meant no more busters. SO MEN, be advised when dealing with women who are making "The Switch" the only thing that has changed is our hair and not our standards! #FMN
Signed- And you can take that to the bank!
Today's hairstyle is a mix between a dry twist set and my original afro. I gave myself a good wash last night after leaving the game (which is another post in itself) applied a Marula all natural hot oil treatment (a great product by the good people at Motions) and applied a deep condition using my shea moisture curl smoothie (a little trick I learned from my girl Nikki B). Overall I'm pretty pleased considering I've definitely had worst hair days. For all my natural girls out there if you have any hairstyles that you think are quick and cute (the key word being cute) please let me know because I am in desperate need of some diva diversity.
Signed- Hairstyle S.O.S.
For those of you out there who don't know me, I am currently a resident of Atlanta Georgia. Last night I was exhausted after a long day of work so I went home and laid it down. I was too tired to touch my hair so I set my alarm just to get up and twist my hair so I wouldn't wake up looking like nightmare on Elm Street. Tired and all at 11:00 pm my alarm sounded and I drug myself to the bathroom, grabbed some shea moisture curling smoothie, and twisted my hair with one eye open and one eye shut. Well unfortunately when I woke this morning mother nature had decided to bless my city with the thunderstorm from hell. So as I prepared for work, untwisted my hair, and reached for the front door, my old friend humidity came knocking and my oh so wavy twist set turned into a hot ass mess of an afro. Now had I known about the "possible chance of showers" or better yet had in my 22 inch wavy indian hair and closure I could have saved myself some time and enjoyed some much needed extra time of sleep #FMN
I'm officially approaching the one month anniversary of making "THE SWITCH" from Weave Queen to Mother Nature and needless to say "life for me ain't been no crystal stair." Over the past few years I've grown accustom to the care free wake and shake lifestyle associated with wearing hair extensions and recently have been turned off by the countless hours associated with being natural. Now I know some of you out there may be thinking "oh no another identity stricken sister" and quite frankly if that's how you feel then this might not be the blog for you, but for those of you who can relate lets keep it real. Every morning when I have to spray a shine sheen, apply a leave in conditioner, pin and press or twist and knot, all i can think is F#*K MY NATURAL!!!! Now hear me clearly, the challenge doesn't mean I'm giving up but every day I feel like I'm on a countdown to breakdown. So with this blog I will be documenting my progress, my frustration, and hopefully my success while informing you on some great products and receiving your input as well. So for all you ladies who are making "THE SWITCH" and aren't up for the criticism from the radical hair crew, consider this a safe place to say #FMN!
signed- Pick yo afro daddy, because it's flat on one side